March has Lots going on it in for me.. Not as much as Dec, Jan or FEB for sure.. but Lots of meaningful dates...
First and for most......... This is the month that my Mother and Father wed.. This is the Month that lead to me being me, being born, and having the life they provided me with. I miss my daddy!
Second, My Grandmother passed away on March 27th 2005....... IT was Easter Sunday that year... I stayed with her as long as I could and every Hour that I could. My "Ex" and I..... went to walmart to pick somethings up.... and I got a call. saying this was it she was Headed HOME. Seems every holiday has some connection to a death..... My Father passed on an Ash Wednesday, My Grams On Easter, My Grandfather around Christmas time, my Other Grandmother's funeral was on St. Patrick's day. BUT.....
What has really come to my mind and bought tears to my eyes..... is What God has given me in this month.....
On 3-25-10 I received a friends request on facebook........
A request I was never expecting. A request I wouldn't of normally accepted! I thought about it and finally accepted it.... It was from Keith. (my husband now lol)
I knew him from high school, I knew him from when he lived with his friend Chris during out high school years and when i was staying with my friend who lived right there next to Chris. He was the wear black, be a bad boy kind of guy....... I was far from wanting to date a bad boy!!!
BUT, I thought about all the time that had passed and that maybe we could be friends. I mean its just facebook, not like I would be stuck with him in my friends list if I didnt want to be. I could just as easily delete him as easily as I added him.. RIGHT?!?!?!
I thought back to December and being at the funeral of his mother........ and how I felt like he was just staring me down like he didn't want me there.... like who in the hades was I for showing up....
Then The request...... SO, I did accept.. Next thing i know... he was talking to me about going out on a date. I tried to put him off as long as I could.
I remember sitting in "director sheperd's" office..... a dear friend, Great boss, and wonderful influential woman who suggested... That I do a lunch date.... that way she knew where I was, When i was leaving and when I would be expected back.... trying to help protect me from this "WEIRDO"
SO I suggested that..... he accepted... ( stopping and realizing that it makes me feel like I made the first move... haha) On March 30th 2010.. we met for a Lunch date, at Lee's where we now go to celebrate every good thing that we have happen to us!!
Well, It went from a lunch date.. where he bought us a couples gym membership.. To Gym after work, and my cooking him dinner.. poni chicken! First mean i got to cook for him!!!
To him bringing my breakfast to my door in the morning..... Talk about a whirl wind romance!!!!
We both had been through, sadness, losses, heart breaks, trials and tribulations, But God brought us together.. knowing we would become stronger with him helping us and binding us together!
Both of our past marriages... Yes we both have been married before... me once, him twice... ended in bad ways. I like to call them our starter marriages.... they taught us what NOT to do.... how NOT to act...... and turned us into better people..... we know we don't like abuse, cheaters, liars, etc... We don't like fighting and screaming or confrontations....... we both do our best to avoid them. We work out our differences with talking instead of fighting screaming or hollering... Because of our past.. we have a future! Because of the road we went down.... our roads have joined and became one....... smooth yet bumpy at times. but its our Mahanay Lane =) its our road and we control how we respond to the bumps, dips and curves.....
Thanks to God, I have an amazing husband, Three beautiful boys..... and a life of love and happiness...... We rely on our selves..... we stand together strong and united on all grounds.. thanks to the "SOLID GROUND" that we built our lives and home upon.
Now, I cant lie.. I often wonder at times.... if ... we would of really met, really thought about dating in High School...... what would of come?? would we of hit it off? would be be married today? having and celebrating a marriage of say 10+ years? I guess that's the i wish we were a fairy tale...... but... Life is so much better than a fairy tale!!!
All I know... is that Thanks to Keith........ for sending the friends request...... we are together today. It started as a whirl wind...... and it continues to be one........
From meeting, dating, getting divorces finalized, Conceiving twins, Getting married, celebrating birthdays, holidays and special occasions, to having Daniel........ 3 children, two pregnancies, in 2years and 4 months........ its been a wild and wonderful ride..........
I cant wait .... til we are Old.(getting there) and grey(thats already started too) holding hands... on a porch swing.. watching grand kids..... great grands..... what ever. playing.. to be able to look back and see what all we have gone through by then..... what all we stuck together through......... To see How the boys turn out and what they grow up to be! To see what they look like then compared to now..... To continue to raise them, teach them, and instill values and morals....... Praying that they change the world! and then world doesn't change them!
I just know, I dont want to take a day for granted!! I dont want to miss a moment to tell Keith I love him, how much i adore him, how i appreciate what he does for our family and my self, What a wonderful man he is and how proud I am of him. What a great father he is....... I want to raise him up, every day that we are together... I might have failed several days, weeks, even months, in the time we have been together. But... I aspire to do better, and to continue to do better day by day and year by year.
Makes me stop and think about one of our all time fav movies..... fire proof!!! and these lines from that wonderful movie
lf l haven't told you... ...that you are a good man... ...you are. And if l haven't told you... ...that l've forgiven you... ...l have. And if l haven't told you... ...that l love you... ...l do. Something has changed in you, Caleb. And l want what happened to you to happen to me. lt can. ls it too late to ask you to grow old with me?
It's never to late to try!!! and I lovingly leave you all with those words!! Blessings, Jessica the eternal romantic....
